Some of these guys have difficulties because of situational conditions. Over the last few weeks, I’ve spoken to a number of men who have a hard time getting off - some in any context, but typically, only with partners. writer James puts it, “There’s a million jokes out there shaming dudes who bust too quickly, so it’s almost weirder to have sex that’s going great to you - but since you’re not coming she thinks she’s doing something wrong.” The trope of the man who shoots his shot then rolls over to sleep is so ingrained in our collective psyche that it may be hard to imagine that there are guys for whom having an orgasm with a partner is difficult - or even impossible.
